I am back – as you can probably tell. I have taken quite a big break from blogging which sort of turned into an uninteded lengthly abscence – you probbaly didn’t notice but I thought I’d let you know anyway 🙂
Long story short, the past few months have been an emotinal rollercoaster where I was struggling to find the right way to balance everything going on in my life.
However in my time away there’s something I realized and that something is about facing your fears.
I’ve realized the amount of times I’ve turned things down whether it was because of my anxiety or because those things were out of my comfort zone. And I’ve realized the amount of times I let my mind take control of my actions and confine me to only doing the things within my comfort zone. But recently I’ve been asking myself: is this the life I want to live? And my answer has been no. Life is too short to miss out on opportunities just because they seem terrifying or scary and as cliché as that sounds it’s true.
Everyone has fears. They might be teeny weeny silly fears or big ones. And if you’re reading this right now I know full well that you want to be able to overcome your fears (after all who doesn’t?) but you might be like me and many others who are terrified of doing so. And it’s important to ask yourself: what’s the worst thing that can happen? Let me reassure you that the chances are the worst thing that you can come up with will not happen.
It has taken me too long to realize this and I regret it. However, I don’t want you to miss out on things as much as I did and regret it like I do. So I think it’s time for all of us to put a great big cross on your fears (you can even use a red Sharpie) and stand up to yourself because as silly as that sounds your greatest enemy is you or more specifically your mind. I would rather do things that in a few years time I will look back at and think “I am so happy I did that” rather than “I wish I’d done that”. I am fed up with forever wondering “what if I’d done that?” Of course, there will be times when you do panic or it doesn’t go as well but at least you can say that you did it and not be left with the dreadful “what if?” nagging you at the back of your mind.
You can’t let your fears take complete control of your life. The worst thing about fears is that we don’t realize how they have take over you. And you get used to it and accept it. I am so jelous of people that ooze so much confidence and that make me wonder what life could be like if I didn’t fear anything. But are your fears really worth being scared of?
I’ve realized that I am never 100% happy because I hold back on so many things. I can’t remember the last time or situation in which I didn’t have a worry or fear floating around in my head. Recently, I had a bit of an admonition if that’s the right way to call it. I realized, that I’ve let the hard thing called life swallow me up and nobody deserves to live this way. And sometimes it takes a big slap in the face for you to realize that this is not the life you want to lead.
So I have decided to live life to the fullest. Do the things I enjoy doing. Be positive and ignore the negatives. I recently competed in something that I’m going to keep anonymous. I have a slight fear of being judged by people. I fear girls my age (that also competed) just because I think that they’ll judge me for how well I do and you might think that this is no biggy. But for me – someone who a couple of weeks back would have done anything within their power to get out of participating in any competition, this is a great achievement. I was terrfied when I had to perform but in the end I was so happy that I’d done it and it was worth every single little doubt, fear and worry.
I guess the point of this post is to try and make you step away from your worries and fears and face them. Because this is YOUR life and yours only and do not let your fears ruin your only life. Be a warrier and NOT a worrier (ha ha that was my attempt at sounding inspirational.)
So I want you guys to come away and do these things:
- do one thing that scares you every day – don’t take this too literally if you suffer quite bad with anxiety but try and accomplish at least one thing that you never would’ve done at least once in a while. Just think about how good you will feel!
- Remember that you are not the only one that may be scared of facing your fears.
- Now go drink a lovely glass of lemonade or hot chocolate outside in the sun or snow and dance to your favourite songs. It might make you feel a bit better than you did.
- Oh and enjoy the lovely sunny whether today (if you live in the UK) I doubt it’ll stay sunny for long but *touch wood* it stays lovely and sunny all week.
Thank you for reading this post and I hope I didn’t bore you to death (like I always do!)
All the hugs and squeezes,
P.S: Of course I couldn’t end this post without a couple of quotes so there you go:
“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.’ – Marie Curie
“We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.” -Marilyn Monroe
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”-Theodore Roosevelt